Yikes! I don’t know if I want to live in a world where the “press” can decide that the world needs to know if you passed gas this morning!? Yet, that is exactly what is happening in our society. How gross is that? And, most frightening is that, the more a person resists the boundary breakers, the more certain the newshounds are that there is something to hide, so they pursue it with even more vigor. Many times they have been right, but, do these pencil pushing detectives have mores enough to back off when what they find really is nobody’s business? I wouldn’t count on it.
So, how do we determine the extent of healthy boundaries in a world that glorifies having no boundaries? I can only answer by sharing what has been given me. If it helps you, use it in good faith and enjoy. Hedgie, up there in the corner is the animal in the Native American cosmology that teaches us how to maintain our boundaries, as when you reach out in good intent, brushing from head to tail on his quills, you will not get hurt. However, if you go to harm our nonshallant little character, you will pull back a handful of quills. Hedgie’s “medicine” is innocense and boundaries.
I want to introduce you to a stone friend of mine, and yes, like the Native American teachers I have known, I consider the stones to be “people” with things to teach us. This fellow is rhodochrosite, and it’s “medicine” is unconditional love. It teaches this to it’s wearer and is best able to teach this when given as a gift. But note the banding. Note the way the stone looks when sliced straight across. There is a center (the sacred heart of each and every human), striations circumventing outward, and then more banding.
What my teachers have used this stone to teach me is the idea of compassionate boundaries. Holding onto my sacred space in such a way as to cause as little offense as possible, while still holding onto that space as mine alone. That is a tough lesson, and it takes time to learn. I wore my friend for a number of years, and still keep it in a special place in my room as a gentle reminder of the lessons.
Now, if you should choose to follow that same pattern, I would like you to understand that the stone is a reminder as well as a teacher, but that you must seek out the conscious knowledge that goes with this. Find the books and human teachers that can teach you these lessons in a gentle way, for as surely as you do not seek to learn the quiet lessons of spirit, there is a trickster prepared to teach you by other means that will grow more and more painful.