A voicehearer’s path ~

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Choose, but choose wisely ~


It’a all about the right of the woman to choose whether she will carry the child within her that will remind her, possibly for years to come, of the most traumatic incident in her life. Emotions boil over on this topic and it is often difficult to see the real issues for all the steam we produce. I stated in this debate, that one of the things that bothers me about a man speaking out on rape with any positive twist may indicate that that man has himself raped and is rationalizing in his own mind a heinous act that should receive the death penalty. However, if we look at all the permutations of the act of rape, we might find that few men would survive.┬áMany men do not believe that women mean no when they say no. And women are pounded by guilt if their bodies respond with orgasm when the sex is against their will.

I must say that just because you know someone who is the product of rape whose life has been positive, does not mean that all children of rape will be able to rise above the trauma of this type of conception. Neither you nor I are in a position to judge. Compassion for the woman would give her the option of choosing whether to carry this fetus to term. In fact, the very option of being able to choose may be the positive turn of events that will allow her to carry the child of trauma without her own feelings reflecting on the development of the fetus.

Studies have shown in the past that a mother’s rejection of the fetus in utero reflects on that child’s ability to learn and live a life that is productive. That being the case, do we want to force a woman to bring a child into the world she cannot by the very nature of it’s traumatic conception, accept? To so force the issue may be doing both the child and the mother a grave disservice. All factors considered, the right of the mother to choose whether she will carry the fetus to term is paramount. We need to let her choose what she will do.

Labels ~

As a society we depend on labels to tell us what is in things, on things, about things and whether the sun will shine tomorrow. For the safety of our children, and the well-being of ourselves, labels serve as a very necessary short hand that allow us to move through life not having to read the fine print on every thing that passes under our inspection. However, we do need to remember that they are shorthand, not the full or even often the true story behind the labels. This is so prevalent that there have, in the past decade or so, come to pass many truth in labeling laws.

The difficulty there, of course, is that some of the spaces in our lives where we particularly need “truth” to be the veritable truth, those laws cannot enter nor would they be effective if they could. How do you label a mystical experience? “The sun was a beautiful rosy red, and the stars talked to me!?!” Careful, you’ll be labeled a druggy if you say that to too many of the wrong people. Or what about the fact that there are so many people out there willing to take the money of people honestly seeking spiritual truth and having no idea where to find it? You cannot always tell, in fact, there are people who sincerely believe what they are selling is sound truth whose work will in the end prove quite false.

All too often that ugly word, “cult” gets thrown around when a new idea comes to town and the “old guard” are threatened by a strange way of doing things. Some of the new ideas are great and will enhance one’s spiritual experience immeasurably and some are pure bunk. Did the Masters’ give us a way to tell when we were being led down the primrose path, or are we on our own on this trail?

Actually, both Y’shua and Buddha gave us some very wise teachings to help us tell when we were being led around by the nose. The Buddha’s caution was to stick to the teachings, the “Four Noble Truths” and the Eightfold Path” being primary but also his other teachings, if a new teacher came along and began to teach anything that went contrary to the basics, he was a charlatan. Y’shua spoke of the fruit of a teacher’s life, if the fruit was bad, the tree was bad, do not eat from that tree.

Many times if you find that someone you have leaned on as a teacher is lacking, you will be slammed with “Do Not Judge”, an understandable gambit, but be careful, choosing not to stay under the tutelage of one that does not live by the principles as a general rule is not condemning them to haedes, it is preserving your own integrity as a follower of the Great Ones. Attempt always to stay in balance and accuse seldom if at all, but do not choose to stay where Compassion is not honored as a way of life.

That “Judging” thing ~

It seems necessary to at sometime or other discuss what Y’shua actually meant and why it is so important, in the path he taught, to refrain from “judging” others. Now, this is, on one hand, painfully simple, i.e. don’t make any judgments regarding the worthiness of another human being. On the other hand, there are so many things that require some sort of judgment, even who you will spend time with, that it is impossible to refrain from judging even for 24 hours.

So what, exactly, is the “judging” that Y’shua was referring to, and what does it mean for us, as followers of his path? For me it means never judge another human being as being “greater” than you before G-d, and never judge another human being as “lesser” than you before G-d. And then, of course, comes the childlike question of “Why?”

I will try to be clear about my own understanding of this prickly subject. When you judge another person as being “greater” or more “worthy” of God’s love than you, you give away a part of your own identity before God, something Y’shua felt so strongly important that you retain, that he repeatedly called his students “sons and daughters” of g-d, so that they would grow in self-esteem, and not let others take their identity from them.

Conversely, when you judge another as unworthy of G-d’s love, in that you think of them as less worthy of God’s love than you or someone else, you take away from them a part of their identity before G-d in your own mind, {you do not actually affect them before God, remember, you only affect your own standing} but in so doing, you are telling G-d and all around you that you are “higher” in G-d’s esteem than that soul, which is something you really do not know without seeing their whole life, and what made them the way they are. That is the reason that we are cautioned that this is G-d’s purview, not our own.

But what do we do about those whom Y’shua said were putting forth bad fruit and would be cut off from life? Nothing. It is not ours to judge them. However, it is ours to judge where we go, what we do, where and with whom we spend our time. In other words. You as a person cannot say that that person is unworthy of Hashem’s mercy, i.e. love, but you can know that you have no business spending time with them, not because of worthiness, but because you may not have the strength to act differently when you are around them.

And, painfully, that is where the distinction lies altogether. If you are not strong enough as an individual on the Path of Y’shua to act according to his teachings and will fall into the behavior of those with whom you spend your time, then you shouldn’t be with people who are not also on that path.

But that has nothing to do with whether they will ultimately be led to walk the right path, that has to do with the fact that the strength of your convictions is not deep enough to keep you going in the right direction if you are not among people going in the same direction. So, the best thing to do is to quit pointing fingers at others, as you remember that each time you do, you are pointing three fingers back at yourself.

The point, then, becomes the difference between what you can judge and what you must leave in the hands of Hashem. You cannot even judge your own worthiness before G-d, it isn’t yours to do. You can, however, judge what you do each day, where you go, and how you act, and in this manner make conscious choices, hour by hour as to whether you will walk in compassion or walk in judgment. The choice isn’t our neighbor’s, the choice is ours.

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