When is it right action to approve or disapprove of an action or word? That is a pretty heavy question, and I am not sure I am going to be able to enlighten others as sometimes I, too, get confused on this one. Y’shua told us not to judge. He was adamant about it. So it is something we need to be aware of on a daily, minute by minute basis. Yet, every decision we make is a judgment of one kind or another, so what is it all about?
Personally, I feel that it has very much to do with the entanglement in others lives spoken of in the last post. When we mind the business of our neighbor so closely we know how many trips he made to the store yesterday, we are crossing his boundaries, a place we should not be. And the comment, “I don’t know why Harry or Sally have to go to the store so often, you’d think they’d make a list and get it all at once.”, Is just the kind of judgment Y’shua was talking about. The only time it’s our business when our neighbor is going or coming is if that very action is messing with our boundaries, i.e., they are making loud noises at 2 am and we are trying to sleep, or they are stomping around and slamming doors so the cake we are baking flops. In other words, if their actions are causing some part of our world to disintegrate is the only time what our neighbor does is any of our business.
This is a tough one, I know, as there are many messages out in the wide world that encourage us to snoop on our neighbors. True, I do not want drug parties in my neighborhood, and would want that sort of thing stopped. But, there again, that’s because something of that sort causes my neighborhood to disintegrate, so it is my business. But, that’s just it, isn’t it? How far do you go in finding out if something is going on that will affect you, do you wait until it does? That may be too late.
For me, the answer has been to live so transparently there is no cause for others to spy on me. What they see is all there is, becuase I truly don’t try to hide things. I know that is not an answer for everyone, but that, too, is probably the result of people minding business not theirs. It does seem a shame that we cannot seem to mind our own boundaries and leave others in peace. It would be quite a different world if we could.