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No more than we can handle?

1 Cor. 10:13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

The concept that God will never give you more than you can handle is not really from the Bible. The closest verse that even approaches that concept is quoted above, and it’s not talking about adversity, it’s talking about temptation. Now, truly, they can be one and the same at times, but most certainly they are not always the same. The trials of life can pile up on a person all at once, and a person can break from the load. That happens to the faithful as well as to those who have no strong connection to the Divine. I have been there, as have many others in my personal circle of acquaintances and friends. There are times, however, when we have asked Spirit to prepare us for certain ministries and functions where Spirit must break through our own barriers in order to do so. At those times, we are brought to, and at times, beyond the breaking point, so to say that God does not give us more than we can handle is short sighted to say the least.

For instance, there are many who innocently enough ask for patience to be made more pure in themselves. That is a foolish prayer, one that can bring on bigger troubles than one can ever foresee. It is trials and tribulations that grow patience within the human soul, so when one prays for patience, one will receive trials and tribulations, aplenty. Never pray for patience unless you are prepared for the “schooling” that brings it out in you. Even praying for understanding can lead to situations we had never before encountered just to show us what another person is going through. Be prepared when you ask Spirit to help you grow in a given area, the lessons to be learned may be more than you can take. I will not tell you that you should not ask for spiritual growth, just the opposite, but don’t be surprised when you find yourself experiencing growing pains, it comes with the territory.

My own personal experience on this has been a slow and sometimes painful process of learning. I hear voices, I see “things” that are not there for others to see. I wanted to understand what was happening to me, and asked to be shown. I was shown. The human mind has far more capacity than most of us ever use. The reason most of us have been “shut down” in some of those areas of the brain are that, quite frankly, we cannot take the bombardment of stimuli on the constant basis that would ensue. Look at autistic children, they are born with many of those things which would be called “breakthroughs” in the mind. Many can hear with such acute clarity that they can hear a faucet dripping blocks away. Others experience visual stimuli outside the normal spectrum available to most humans. These are but a few of the ways in which they are challenged, and such a young mind ends up shutting down, or shutting out normal communication because it is too much to bear.

I can tell you that Spirit is there to comfort and sustain us at those times, I can tell you that Spirit is very real to me, but you must experience that for yourself, and that alone can be a phenomenon that will lead to near breaking of your own psyche. Truly, it is no comfort to tell someone that God will not give them more than they can bear, the truth is that many times life on this plane will bring just exactly that. Sometimes, all you can do for another is simply be there, give a shoulder to cry on, give a listening ear, gently allowing another to pour out their pain, so that you can, at least for the moment, share it, thereby easing the burden. Try not to give platitudes, they only make the suffering worse. Just be there, that may be all you can do.

Handling “It”

I had started to post about the concept that “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle”, a lie that is soooo big, I have difficulty voicing my frustrations, and have a difficult time even keeping my tongue when it is well meaning people saying it. Adversity can come upon anyone, at anytime, and if too much of it comes at once, even the very strongest may break under the load. That goes for people of faith as well as those who claim no faith. Life is tough. Any one who does not believe that has not lived. Yes, there is the rare soul that seems to skate through life, nothing touching them, but they are rare indeed, and often have hidden problems and just know how to hide them from the world.

I cannot tell you that there is a magic formula that will keep such adversity from your door. I wish I could, I would have used it in my life before now. I can tell you that Creator loves us passionately, even when we have broken under life’s load. I can tell you that the tender ministries of the Holy Spirit can wrap you in Divine love more fully when you have broken. And I do not mean here that you should seek such, for it is no picnic, I am simply saying that the care of the Divine is there, always, to heal us and make us whole again. It may happen overnight, in the blink of an eye, or over months or years of counseling or just the passage of time. But, the remarkable thing about the human spirit is that, indeed, it can heal.

This is something to hold onto, for I have seen, as have all of you, what horrible things can come from a broken spirit that has not healed. The injuries spread, and more harm occurs when healing is absent. In fact, if you look around you at the world at large, it would seem that most of the harm one human does to another is usually as the result of previous injury to the perpetrator’s soul. This should not mean that we do not seek justice. It means that justice should always be rendered alongside mercy. It means that, if we can, we should always look to find a way to help others out of adversity, if it is at all possible. It is those of us who can still have compassion that must look to relieve the suffering of those who are under the load.

 

“Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant with the weak and wrong. Sometime in your life, you will have been all of these.”
Siddhārtha Gautama

 

What to teach Children?

Gads, has anyone found the parent’s manual for raising kids yet? Why won’t one manual work for all children? Aye, there’s the rub, isn’t it? We are all so similar, yet each of us has a personality even from birth, so that no one set of “rules” works for all. If we believe the Bible, even the first parents fouled up, as one brother got so angry he killed the other brother, so how do we hope to “do it right”, and rear children that will prosper in their own right and be kind to others? How do we take measure of what our child will need the most as they move from one stage of growth to the next? And, how do we compensate for our own brokenness, and not pass our glitches on to our children? And how do we meet the needs of our babies if we are so broken that we cannot even see past our own glitches?

If I really had the answers to all those questions, I could make a mint, don’t you think? Unfortunately, we can only do the best we can with the tools we are given. So, where do we find the tools we need? Are they in the Bible? Are those tools in some other “Sacred Writ”?  Well, not that I have found, at least not so far. So, does modern psychiatry have the answers? Possibly, though even here, not all as the thrust of psychiatry is mending the broken people after they are injured, not preventing the injuries in the first place. But, I have yet to meet a parent that cares that doesn’t want their children to do better and be better people than they were. And that, in a nutshell, seems to be the key. How much does the parent care about the child?

In my own life, I have experienced one thing that seems to hold true for others as well. If one’s parents can convey, through their own trials and difficulties, that they love us with all they have to give, we may, with much soul searching of our own, survive their mistakes and actually prosper as people. It seems to be that, if we do not believe our parents loved us, we cannot believe we are lovable at all. Ouch! If that is the case, then the most important thing, before we do anything else, is to do our best to be sure our children know we love them. If we can do that one thing, then, perhaps, they will be able to sort out the rest as they mature.

Am I sure about this? No, but I am sure that they will find the rest of the basic rules as they go along, after all, we learn in kindergarten to share, to be fair, and not to lie, cheat or steal. And though those are things that parents should try to teach, they will be reinforced along the way by society’s institutions, so that the “rules of engagement” will be part of the child’s thought process as they move into adulthood. But, nobody else besides the parent can provide that one basic ingredient that seems to make life worth living. LOVE!

Dr. Joyce Brothers, in an article about our love map, why we love who we love, addresses the influence of parents on our ability to love and be loved. (I found this at Reader’s Digest, rd.com, the article may have been published elsewhere first, that used to be the case with the Digest, though I cannot say with this article, as there was no reference to another publication) I have always liked Dr. Brothers, but I do want you to be aware that pop psychiatry can only go so deep, you must seek out your own references to go further with the subject. Here she explains some basics that are necessary for us to do the best we can for our children in this primary area of parenting.

I wish I knew of a manual for the rest, I don’t think it exists, but, if it did or does, I hope to find it, and give you a link, as I have yet to find any easy answers from anyone anywhere on how to do it right, without making mistakes along the way. Good luck, and let me know, if you find that manual, I will refer to it here.

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Abiding . . . . . .3rd part.

Please forgive me for the length of this discourse, this is so basic to the path I have walked, and though I would by no means hold myself up as a marked holy person, the fact that the voices have made life more difficult for me, and may be doing the same for others, they have made it more difficult even at times, to hold onto reality and my place in the sun. This is, again, the reason I share my path with you, if what I have learned can in any way ease your path, I will feel it was worth the risk in exposing myself this way.

Again, simple ceremonies, such as Tai Chi, or walking the labyrinth, or laying out ones “sacred” items, even if it is nothing more than the book you are reading, your copy of Holy Writ, (be it Bible or Quran, or Bhagavadgita, or Torah), perhaps a candle, a cloth for the table on which you will work and take notes. These things help to put you in the “space of prayer”. What ever works for you, that is what you do. Do not tell another that they are doing it “wrong” even if they are frustrated and asking you how you ‘do it’. Share with them the way that works with you and let them find the way Spirit works best with them.

I have worked with several “students”, other voice hearers mostly, who have been dedicated to wanting to learn a sane way to live and learn and serve Holiness. In the progression of learning, I have found that there comes a time when Spirit takes over the lessons. Spirit will still send them back to me to get more depth, but she begins to lead them in their learning. I have had more than one with whom this has happened. They would come sit with me and we would talk about a concept that needed to be introduced into their lives, and they would leave me shaking their heads, puzzled at what that was all about.

Over the next several days, she would show them the lesson in the best way for them to learn it. It would amaze me. I was not their teacher, she was, I must say that because of that, I began to think of myself as a mentor much more than a teacher, as I simply facilitated the learning process in my charges. This is why I say to you do not insist on a specific way of learning for anyone else. If Spirit works with you as she has worked with me, you are not the teacher, you can only show what works with you, and let Spirit guide the others from there.

I will emphasize again, the only command Y’shua gave was to love, the basis of Buddha’s teachings was kindness to all. If the dog comes to you and starts talking about killing the neighbor, warn the dog that such talk will get it permanently kenneled, you don’t live that kind of life. I have never sought students, they have come to me. I would never encourage one who does not hear voices already to try to hear them. It is difficult to discern the source of those voices and there are many that will attempt to guide you in the wrong direction. That is the reason for the emphasis on compassion in my teachings. A voice hearer cannot afford to live any other way. Let the ones whose minds are not so open to the realms of light and dark be the ones to condemn others, it is not your job, and you cannot afford to let such thought patterns creep into your thinking. Not in any way!

Now, perhaps I need to discuss something here that will help you understand how I came to “teach” the way I do. I worked for a time in a spiritually oriented drug rehab center. The administrator spoke of the fact that alcohol, like drugs, opened up the mind to the lower realms of the spirit. It really made no sense to me at the time, and in context of his conversation on that day, would not have lead to what occured to me later. It was in knowing a gentleman whose association had been with AA and learned their way of viewing the spiritual life that it all came together.

I have come to realize that AA’s practice is a solid spiritual path that cares not the parent faith, simply disciplines the individual to live a personally spiritual life. With all the things that have been brought into my awareness regarding my own difficulties, this makes a great deal of sense. Again, it is not about what you call yourself, it is about how you live your life.

Therefore, know that I would not willingly teach anyone who has the will to hurt another, if you have not already been broken by the pain of what you have suffered it is not mine to break you. If, however, you are ready to live a life in service to the highest, I can help get you on track, that is all. I am not some grand “faith healer”, I am not some incredible “evangelist”, I am a simple woman, living a simple life, willing to share the path that has brought peace to my troubled mind in times that in their way are no more nor less troubled than the past. It is my sincerest hope that if you are also a voice hearer, what I share will help you to find a path of peace and gentle grace.

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