A voicehearer’s path ~

The Heart ~

0214-human_heartI had seen this particular graphic at NatGeo and, because it was a bit different, I kept a copy until I could do more research. All of those little corollaries are due to the heart having some blockage in the main artieries that feed the heart and keep it pumping moment to moment. The more blockage in your heart’s arteries,  the more profound will be the umbrella of little corollaries that are feeding your heart and trying to keep you alive. The heart has no backup organ, unlike the kidneys and lungs. so it is up to us to live heart healthy lives.

Since the dietary knowledge is relatively new, say the last 30 to 40 years, we are still readjusting our daily intake at the “comfort” level to try to teach ourselves and our children how best to eat and stay healthy. Our sweet and salty snacks that everybody loves are pretty much a no-no. We need to eat more fruits and vegetables, and I am not one to have neglected those, as I have had diabetes for years. Oh well.

There is a part of the cardiac regime, however, that is not part of a culinary artist’s work. That is the disturbing emotions. These are dealt with in quite a different way. It is “right” that we remain “engaged” with our world, too detached a point of view is as unhealthy as hearttoo attached a point of view. Most often it is not the events themselves we fear, but how they will change our lives and the lives of those we love that we fear.

My roomate at the hospital was a lovely woman whose attitudes in life had pretty much kept her alive even with a heart whose major arteries were suffering profound blockages. as in 100% and 90%, dang! She has 3 sons, the older two exemplary sons that are good to their mother, her 15 year old, however, is one of those children who loves his freedom and keeps his mother awake at night. It is in fact, worry about him that had stressed her so much that she sought relief from that stress, only to find that she is in need of bypass surgery of the heart.

How does one detach enough from the actions of one’s children to survive one that is more self-determined than helpful at this stage in his life?  Such self-determination may serve him well in his later years, but is certainly disrupting the peace of his parental home. Unfortunately, answers anyone can give her are going to be incomplete, as it is at the center of her own being where she will have to find the peace that passes understanding in order to weather the storms of a young person’s trip into adulthood. There are good things that one can learn, I have sent many to Coping.org, as the Dr.s Messina are quite helpful, though this 2242949998_db416180711lovely lady does not do the internet.

I suggested that after her surgery she seek the councel of a professional, though only time will tell if she chooses that route. The various Buddhist teachers that have chosen to interrelate with those of us outside the monestary, such as Thich Nhat Hann, and HH Tensin Gyatso, the Dalai Llama, all have some wonderful teachings on meditation and detachment from the disturbing emotions, if she can get past the religious barriers, as she is a Roman Catholic Christian. One can never be sure what the best answers are for another, as most times we must find the answers for ourselves. I shall most certainly keep her, and all such troubled parents in my prayers. It breaks the heart, literally to see the babies we have loved from infancy choose a crooked path at so young an age as their teens.

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